I admit to all the same obsessive feelings and behaviour as you. I have to remind myself that I want to write what I want, not what necessarily does well. What bothers me is that it feels like we are being read more for reading others than good writing. I do try to find time to submit to other publications. That's not easy because I have a job that actually pays. I am constantly reminding myself I am writing for enjoyment but I keep letting the pennies rule how I feel about my work.