Okay... this made me laugh--

at myself. I'm older so I have been brainwashed not to talk about anything you mentioned. But I've learned over the years that hush-hush message does not work well for me. Thank God I raised my children to be open and did my best to model it to them.

Personal experience taught me that hidden messages dump shame on everyone. We fill in the blanks and if you are like me, the blanks are negative and usually wrong.